WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR LOVE ONES DON’T SUPPORT YOUR CREATIVE LIFE?

Since I relaunched I’ve received so much love and support from family, friends and people I don’t know. I am grateful. However, I’ve noticed not everyone shares the same excitement. Sometimes I share my creative life namely, my blog, with some and I can be greeted with sounds of critiques.

There’s a feeling of disappointment when someone you love and respect, gives you a blank stare or silence after you share an important part of your life. If you’re not careful it can put a damper on your spirit and leave you with a bitter taste.

So what to do when your love ones don’t support your creative life? You can confront them. Asked them why? It may play out well. They may say they did not realized they affected you in a negative way. Smile. Give you a hug & kiss and make-up. It also can go south. Then you have someone on your hands trying to defend themselves from and awkward situation. I avoid awkward situations. Instead I rather pray, get over it, and not take it personal.

First I PRAY.

Negativity comes as a distraction. It will suck your creative spirit dry. So ask God to get your head out of the funk and keep you centered and focused on what is positive in your life. Like those people who’re supporting you and celebrating with you.

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Next, GET OVER IT.

When I say “get over it,” I don’t mean to get over your feelings. It’s your feelings and you have the right to them. However, you should get over the idea that everyone will respond to what you do with love and excitement. Don’t require them to “get it,” or “celebrate it.” There’s many reasons why someone may not support you. It can be as complicated as they don’t know how to, or as simple as they don’t want to. Trying to figure it out requires too much effort, and takes your mind from important things, like creating. Instead, learn to celebrate yourself. If no one gets it, if no one cares, applaud yourself for your work and effort. And continue to be a #DreamerWithPlans.

And Finally, Don’t take it PERSONAL.

Not taking it personal can be hard,especially when the person you want support from is close to you. However, the truth is, creative people like ourselves are not the easiest to support. Our creative minds often find many things we want to dabble in; art, writing, dancing, photography, among other things. All which can be fun, exciting, and also consume time and not always lucrative. And when we are in the zone we can have a one track minds, spending hours away from our love ones. So don’t take it personal if your love ones “don’t get it.”

That’s my solution…

When love ones don’t support you the way you want? I know I am not the only one who has dealt with this. How do you handle it?

 

  • Kenya

    Sigh, the struggle of getting loved ones to support your creativity is all too real, but honestly, it’s something I stopped devoting time to a while back. My writing is the one thing that matters SO much to ME that I don’t even care if my friends/family get it. I appreciate the support from people who are genuinely interested in my work which more than makes up for those family/friends who aren’t into it.

    • Hey Kenya, Thanks for reading. I am glad that you was able to get pass it to just write. Keep writing.

  • Shawn Richards

    Interesting article. I just watched an interview where David Banner was explaining that being people with vision, visionaries, is really a double edged sword. On one hand, we are blessed to see what most people can’t see. But it’s also a bit of a curse, because oftentimes, we have to go through it alone.
    So I totally get where you are coming from. It does suck a lot of times. But it is SO important that we stay grounded in doing it for US, and NOT for validation from others.

    • Thanks for reading. When I was writing this article I did not think about being people with visions can be a lonely place. But it’s this exactly.

  • Ava Griffith

    Thank you. This reminded me of Miguel Ruiz’s FOUR AGREEMENTS – Don’t Take Anything Personally:

    • Thanks for sharing Mifuel Ruiz’s four agreements. I did not know about it. Very interesting.

  • This is so true. I get the most support from people that don’t even know me. I agree..pray and keep it moving! #BLMgirl

    • Thanks #BLMgirl for reading and your comment. I am starting to cherish the #BLMgirls. And I am learning to cherish the support I get from those I don’t know.

  • I got to work on the prayer part but the rest is definitely me! W

    • I am glad to hear that, Anekia. Keep praying, keep working your dreams.

  • I’m with you. I pray and get over it. Sometimes, if it is coming from someone who I know has my best interest in mind (parents, etc.) I try to understand where they are coming from: maybe it’s fear that I’ll be disappointed or fear that I’ll be broke (mostly the latter lol). I reassure them that I’m a big girl and I’ll be okay, especially if I know this is what God is leading me to do. I trust Him to work it out. They’ll either get it now or later. And for those people who just don’t want to get it or support you; you just have to ignore them.

    #BLMGirl

    • Hey Taniqua. Thanks for reading and commenting. You really summed up what I was saying. Lack of support can come from all of these things. The reality we can’t waste too much energy on it