Since I relaunched I’ve received so much love and support from family, friends and people I don’t know. I am grateful. However, I’ve noticed not everyone shares the same excitement. Sometimes I share my creative life namely, my blog, with some and I can be greeted with sounds of critiques.
There’s a feeling of disappointment when someone you love and respect, gives you a blank stare or silence after you share an important part of your life. If you’re not careful it can put a damper on your spirit and leave you with a bitter taste.
So what to do when your love ones don’t support your creative life? You can confront them. Asked them why? It may play out well. They may say they did not realized they affected you in a negative way. Smile. Give you a hug & kiss and make-up. It also can go south. Then you have someone on your hands trying to defend themselves from and awkward situation. I avoid awkward situations. Instead I rather pray, get over it, and not take it personal.
First I PRAY.
Negativity comes as a distraction. It will suck your creative spirit dry. So ask God to get your head out of the funk and keep you centered and focused on what is positive in your life. Like those people who’re supporting you and celebrating with you.Learn to Celebrate Yourself! Click To Tweet
Next, GET OVER IT.
When I say “get over it,” I don’t mean to get over your feelings. It’s your feelings and you have the right to them. However, you should get over the idea that everyone will respond to what you do with love and excitement. Don’t require them to “get it,” or “celebrate it.” There’s many reasons why someone may not support you. It can be as complicated as they don’t know how to, or as simple as they don’t want to. Trying to figure it out requires too much effort, and takes your mind from important things, like creating. Instead, learn to celebrate yourself. If no one gets it, if no one cares, applaud yourself for your work and effort. And continue to be a #DreamerWithPlans.
And Finally, Don’t take it PERSONAL.
Not taking it personal can be hard,especially when the person you want support from is close to you. However, the truth is, creative people like ourselves are not the easiest to support. Our creative minds often find many things we want to dabble in; art, writing, dancing, photography, among other things. All which can be fun, exciting, and also consume time and not always lucrative. And when we are in the zone we can have a one track minds, spending hours away from our love ones. So don’t take it personal if your love ones “don’t get it.”
That’s my solution…
When love ones don’t support you the way you want? I know I am not the only one who has dealt with this. How do you handle it?